JOY..!! the grandmother didn’t come.. nor did she call. What nice person .. !! and her the spouse.. didn’t want to tell her not to come.. because it is quite the inconvenience for us. I don’t think they really care. Or just don’t care enough. Sad! their lost.
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The outlaws were in today.. but i wasn’t in the mood to chat at all. In fact, i was a little afraid of being confronted again.. about the stupid “family name” issue. So i tried to be cordial.. and don’t want to talk to her directly. But guess what, she needed to know if my operation still hurt and said strange since I don’t do much. or anything heavy. Oh my God..!! leave me alone. I don’t want to come out, get the hint.!
Wow..! it had been a long break.. since i last wrote.. and it was about bills again. Well.. this time.. it’s about the man’s mother. A few weeks ago.. she had come to the store.. and said it was illegal for me to use their family name.. since we were not “married”.
Yes.. i was hurt.. and even if it was true.. we didn’t get “married” .. we are still considered common law by the law/country.. so what’s the beef..?? We haven’t talked since. I’m still at a lost of words.. to explain how i felt.. because it didn’t feel like she was curious .. more like an accusation. So i don’t even know where it is coming from.
I wonder if i got my FIL to spend money that might go to waste..?? i saw a very nice curio cabinet that was less than its original price for 50% .. and i pestered the poor man to go get it for the MIL. And now .. after so many weeks.. it’s in a room. that they haven’t used for like 10 yrs.. so i donch really know. I really hope they put it in good use .. because even though it was 50% off.. it still cost abit.. and one third of the money came from my pocket.
The kid went for her needles a few days ago.. but the grandparents didn’t call to ask how she was. She had a fever.. and again.. .they didn’t call to ask .. how she was. It’s almost like they donch really care… except for the most mundane thing. I guess the kid ain’t that important afterall. I shouldn’t be too surprised eh..? coz’ during my operations.. and needed help.. my MIL kept saying she needed to get home. There itself we already know. that the garden was more important.
Yes..! i can remember what my in laws need or want.. even from a long time ago and will constantly be on a look out for stuff they want.. or need. Unfortunately, i feel i give my heart to them.. but they donch do the same. It is disheartening to see the babysitter’s parents treating the kid better than her own grandparents. When we want the in laws to pay for something for the kid.. we just go ahead and buy it.. they don’t even make any effort to get her anything .. even though she is starrting school this fall.
We went to the in law’s last week. The first for a few weeks now.. because of my surgeries. But of course the kid and the man did go even though i couldn’t go. Last week.. i went with them.. and of course the house was as dirty.. the MIL said she was gonna try cleaning up the kitchen.. because in a few weeks.. she will be working at the apple farm. Well. .the cleaning part .. i’ve been hearing for years now.. and so far.. nothing had been done. Last week.. while i was there.. it was hard.. because there were so many flies.. all over.. and i just couldn’t eat in this kinda environment..! and the kid had to kneel on the floor to eat her dinner. *sad*
We were there for too long.. because work started to drop when we wanted to leave. and of course the in laws computers were too filthy to even work on it .. *sigh*! And today is sunday.. so i donch know to go or not to go. We want to do the right thing.. that is to go and visit the in laws.. but on the other hand.. it’s not fit for visiting.. *sigh*
The kid had some sort of mini graduation .. and i had invited the outlaws to come. I was surprised that they said they would try to come. The said day.. the graduation was over.. and she turned up. Blamed it on the father in law .. and she was almost upset. Oh well..! what can i say right..??
My in laws seems to think that I should be well by now. They seemed surprised.. when i tell them i am not at the store yet.. and still in alot of pain. I guessed the difference between my c-section when i had my kid and now must be really different for them. When i had my c-section .. i was up and about the very same day. But now.. i am still in alot of pain after a month. I can’t helped it.. either.. and i hate it. But i can’t be well.. every other day.. and they keep asking.. and i’m frustrated.
It is funny how my FIL would asked if we were visiting them… since i am still recovering from my surgery. I wonder why they won’t make an effort to come visit me instead. Afterall, i am STILL SICK right..?? i won’t be able to be comfortable at their place… for their kitchen is cluttered.. and not very much seat available. And since it is summer now.. the house is even going to be dirtier.. because of their gardening stuff. Nah.. i can’t go visit now.